aseksuel polyamori

Aseksuel polyamori

Når de normative skal forstå dem, der ikke lever op til samme normativitet, så overser de desværre ofte alle de mange nuancer, der er i det nonnormative. De forstår af en eller anden grund ikke, at det de undersøger, ikke kan puttes i en kasse, der er lige så stor som deres. At kasserne blot bliver mindre og mindre jo flere beskrivende detaljer, der skal medtages. Det nonnormative miljø er trods alt samlet set en meget større kasse end det normative, så vi har plads til mange forskellige kasser.

Denne manglende forståelse rammer ofte aseksuel polyamori, da de normative af en eller anden grund har svært ved at forestille sig, at et forhold ikke behøver at indeholde sex… også selvom de nok selv ofte oplever et fald i deres egen sexlyst, når de har været med den samme partner i over 7 år.

Det er derfor, det er så vigtigt, at de normative ikke udfører forskning uden at have en konsulent med, der har personlig kendskab til det nonnormative. En sådan konsulent ville i en samtale nævne “og så der er aseksuel polyamori”.

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Asexual Polyamory: Potential Challenges and Benefits
Dan Copulsky

2016

Conclusion

As is true for a wide range of diverse sexualities, polyamory is a relationship style that may be well suited for some asexual people but less so for others. Understanding the motivations that draw many asexuals to polyamory and the specific ways in which this kind of relationship can be difficult for them is a cornerstone both for providing culturally competent support and for conducting inclusive research. Three recommendations are offered below to help professionals and community members to better serve asexual and polyamorous individuals.

First, a clinician working with an asexual client should not assume what kinds of relationships the client may be a part of, or what the client’s reasons are for choosing such relationships. The clinician should also remain sensitive to aspects of relationships that may be particularly emotional for specific clients.

Researchers studying nonmonogamy can be diligent in deciding what varieties of intimate relationships to be included in their work and communicating these decisions clearly throughout the research process. If a study is limited to looking at sexual relationships, potential participants should be aware of this limitation, and research reports should be clear that the particular study does not necessarily encompass the potential richness and diversity of polyamory.

Finally, professionals advocating for asexuals through writing or speaking should strive to better reflect the full scope of experiences and insights that are represented within this community. Researchers can continue examining these rich and diverse experiences with additional study. While this paper offers insights regarding potential challenges and benefits of asexual people in polyamorous relationships, much more research is needed that focuses on the overlap between these communities. Particularly, research utilizing larger sample sizes that explores challenges and benefits, as suggested here, is warranted and useful.

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