polyamorøs

Polyamorøse er mere ærlige

Når man vælger at leve et polyamorøst liv, så bliver man i de fleste tilfælde nød til at overveje alle ens livsvalg og antagelser. Man bliver meget bevidst om hvad forhold egentlig er og i den forbindelse ender man ofte med at vælge en højere grad af ærlighed. Simpelthen fordi ærlighed skaber tillid og tryghed og dermed et bedre forhold til andre mennesker. Ens bevidste overvejelser medfører selvfølgelig også, at man er parat til at besvare spørgsmål om ens forhold på et dybere niveau end “fint”, fordi man har bevidst viden om ens forhold. Fordi man har taget stilling og tænkt nogle tanker og sætninger. Det er ikke et gråt område, som man ikke har forholdt sig til og derfor tror egentlig bare er fint, uden at have noget, at basere det på.

De monogame kan lære nogle ting af de polyamorøse uden at det betyder, at de monogame skal til at være polyamorøse.

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What Do Polys Want?: A National Survey of a Hidden Population
Jim Fleckenstein, Curtis R. Bergstrand, Derrell W. Cox II

2012

Summary

Compared with the general adult population represented by the GSS, the LM sample is younger, more educated, happier, healthier, and more sexually active with more people. The findings from comparison between the GSS and the LM responses are a little curious. A number of the questions asked indicated significant differences between LM and GSS respondents, but other, similar questions resulted in very different trends, especially when asked about happiness versus satisfaction with health, friendships, romance, marriage, etc. We suspect that a couple of important factors relevant to the LM sample may be driving these curious results. One may be that the LM population is less influenced by social desirability bias than the GSS respondents. That is, while the general population may be inclined to answer “Great” or “Fine” to the question, “How are you?”, LM respondents may just as well give a thoughtful and truthful answer in line with a widely-held value of rigorous honesty within the polyamorous community. Another, but related, factor may be related to the significantly higher educational status of LM respondents and their highly rational assessment of all questions posed to them. In the words of one long-term polyamory activist and advocate, Jim Fleckenstein, poly folk have a life- and relationship-orientation that is “deliberative, ruminative, and picky.” They have deep friendships and connections, but they also have high expectations for these interpersonal relationships.

Ærlighed, Tillid og Tryghed

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